What’s Next? Transitioning Out Of the Military
Things often change in unexpected and abrupt ways when you make the transition to being a civilian. A difference in perspective occurs almost immediately once you make the final decision. Despite this, you might tend to cling to the familiar military culture. It is possible to remain in emotional denial for quite a while. The change does not seem entirely real until there is actually some other place to go. A smooth transition means you have prepared yourself sufficiently for this next stage of your life.
Now is the time to perform a comprehensive review. You can assess what your expectations are and how you will meet your goals. You should identify your marketable skills. You need enough time to fill in any educational gaps that might hinder you from quickly acquiring another occupation. In addition to all this, you must know your limitations. This won’t be easy. If it seems simple at first, then you will probably encounter significant obstacles later. Expect them. Treat them as challenges that will make you a better person.
It is important to make sure all your needs are met so you can deal with the stress of this transition. Here are some areas to consider:
- Financial – A job is a priority but not necessarily your most important one. You need to have enough qualifications (including sufficient education) to make yourself a good candidate for your next chosen career field. Best case scenario, you have enough money saved to ride out any potential unemployment period or unexpected expenses. You may need to seek out a loan – just be sure you have a realistic plan for paying it back.
- Medical – You can take advantage of military-sponsored insurance opportunities during out-processing. Make sure that you are covered by either private insurance or through your new job. If something happens after you leave the service, then the government is no longer responsible. Documentation of any disability associated with your time in the service is imperative. In such cases, you can still get treatment at a VA hospital. Depending upon where you locate, this could be very inconvenient since there relatively few available.
- Educational – If you need more education to get a decent job, then you should already be accepted at the university, college, or trade school you wish to attend. Ideally, this will be in place before your separation date. It is a good idea to take advantage of educational benefits before you leave the military. If you decide to stay in the military longer (or if this is decided for you), this can still help your career advancement.
- Physical – You will need to find a place to live. Many colleges provide affordable student housing. Often, service members move back in with family members. Others look for an apartment. In cities with a high cost of living, you may need to find a roommate. Look for someone who has a compatible personality and a strong sense of ethics. Another former soldier might be a good person to room with. A decent credit record is your ticket to getting approved for a lease.
- Emotional/Psychological – Finding other people who understand what you have been through is very important. You are probably learning to reconnect with family and friends right now. They may not be comfortable with the ways in which you have changed. That is OK. Try to be patient and realize that their lives have changed while you were away also. If you need to vent, don't take it out on your loved ones. Online forums where you can connect with other veterans offer a safe, anonymous outlet for things you may not be able to express to your civilian friends.
- Social/Recreational – Looking for a social group is important. Sometimes this is the last thing on the mind of a soldier in transition, but it should not be ignored. You might seek out a religious organization, an amateur sports team, or a volunteer association. Wherever you decide to go you need to feel comfortable, be able to relax, and be yourself.